It’s not often that we see or read things about how to make a man feel loved and special in a relationship. I always encourage men to treat the woman in their lives better, to be romantic, genuine and all that fun stuff.
But the truth is, it goes both ways. Any successful relationship requires constant effort from BOTH teammates. Teamwork makes the dream work, doesn’t it?
To give you some ideas on how to do your part, here are 10 things you can do to make the man in your life feel special and loved.
Believe me, he will be very grateful.
1. Compliment her.
It may come as a surprise to many women, but it is rare for a man to receive sincere compliments. We are often on the side of compliments. So, by recognizing your man with genuine adoration, he will feel appreciated.
2. Ask for his opinion.
Stereotypically, when a woman talks to a man about her problems, she is not necessarily looking for a solution. She wants a listener. However, a man’s instinct is to try and provide a solution.
So go ahead and ask them specifically for their opinion. It makes him feel useful, wanted, and even needed. This will allow him to work his muscles to solve problems and make him feel like he is contributing to your life.
3. Wear that outfit that you know he loves.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before: Men are visual creatures. But there’s more than just looking good. If a man sees you in something that you know he likes, he will recognize that you are making an effort to look good for him in particular.
4. Give it your full attention.
Yes, women multitask better than men. You might be able to check your email and give it your attention, but it shows your lack of intent. Show him that he has your undivided attention.
5. Make him feel comfortable expressing himself.
Men are often told that they should be the strongest. This is incorrectly translated as being emotionless. I am convinced that showing an emotion takes more strength than holding it back, but societal builders often tell us the opposite.
This means that there are very few safe places where men can open up and speak out about what bothers them, no matter how badly they want it. If you provide a safe place for your man to let off steam, it will be a welcome gesture of love and affection.
6. Be affectionate with him.
As simple as this one is, it is often overlooked. Small things like holding his hand, walking arm in arm, or resting your head on his shoulder can make him feel like he’s protecting you, even if you don’t need his protection. Protecting you is often a man’s way of showing his love for you.
7. Show him that he is a priority.
We all have busy lives with our friends, family, work and hobbies, but be sure to include it where you can.
Time is the most precious asset of all of us because we cannot get it back after we have spent it. It is also the most important gift we can give to someone.
8. Take the tab.
I believe a man should always pay for dates. Not necessarily just the first date, but also in progress.
However, if you occasionally swipe your card at the server without them noticing, they aren’t going to hate it. This will show him that you appreciate the things he does for you and that you are also ready to take care of him.
9. Give her long hugs.
Men often communicate physically, whether through body language or by putting an arm around them.
It is a language that he understands instinctively. Women can send a very important message of love to their men by being physically close. Holding it a little longer and squeezing it a little tighter will show him the affection he desires.
10. If you like what he does for you, let him know.
Romance and relationships are a two-way street. A good man will give you without asking for anything in return, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do anything. Tell your man you like having him in your life.
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James michael sama is an award-winning Boston-based blogger who writes about dating and relationships. It is about chivalry, romance and happiness and has been featured on several occasions in news segments, talk shows, and mainstream radio.
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